your thoughts becomes your reality


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Your ideas and thoughts can become your reality. If it is a negative thought, it could be a virus which spreads into your mind. You would come to terms that your thoughts were the truth. You would find reasons to validate that truth. Neglecting any other argument that could prove it otherwise.

However, you could use this “virus” to benefit you. Put in effort in having a positive mindset. Dress well, keep healthy, smile. As they say, fake it until you become it. Confidence and happiness can be nurtured. It takes effort. Whenever a negative thought creeps it, you have to realise it. You have to stop it and change the thought. Don’t let yourself go down that road.

You deserve better than that.





We might have planned everything for an exam, a job, an interview. We ensured that every single detail prior to the execution of the plan is accounted for. However, there would still be this lingering feeling that something isn’t right. The unknown outcome could drive us crazy even though we have prepared ourselves thoroughly for it.

It is this very act of worrying that hinders us from being successful. Unnecessary worrying could affect our hard work in preparations.

Here are some advice to combat this negative thought.

1) Focus on what you know

Taking an exam as an example, imagine the we have already studied the topics in its entirety. Keep focusing on what we know. This reinforces our understanding of the topics. Furthermore, it does not let our mind wander. This could be applied to presentations, event preparations and others too. Reinforce on what we have done.

2) Visualize the success

This helps in gaining confidence of our own performance. Being confident psyches ourselves up for any challenges that we might face. We acknowledge that there would not be an easy ride, but we are going to be successful in the end.

3) Learn from the experience

Take the event as a potential learning experience. As they say, focus on the process rather than the outcome. The outcome is beyond our control, but we can reflect upon our efforts during and after the outcome. Emphasize our strengths, and work on our weakness.


Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

We feel safe within the boundaries of what we know. We have come a long way to get to where we are, so we get comfortable. This is it, we tell ourselves. This is our limit.

However, we have to accustom ourselves into breaking this boundary. We would surprise ourselves at what we are capable of. The opportunities are limitless. We have to seize it. We have to grow. That is how we can succeed.


learn to be a master, not a slave of technology

learn to be a master, not a slave of technology

Technology today can either work for us or against us. Information regarding the “world” is within our grasp. You notice it on the train rides to and back from work/school.

Almost everyone is in the world of their own glued to their latest gadgets, be it a smart phone or an iPad. Checking Facebook or other social medias, or playing games on their gadgets are common ways of how people spend most of the time.

In our “culture of distraction,” many of us live and work with divided attention and depleted energy resources, largely thanks to the unrelenting siren song of technology and social media. Here are some sobering statistics: Two-thirds of mobile users check their phone for messages, alerts and calls even when it’s not ringing or vibrating, according to Pew research, and the average smartphone user checks their phone every six and a half minutes (that’s up to 150 times a day). A 2010 AOL survey even found that 59 percent of mobile users check their email from the bathroom.

It drains your brain by using it on mindless activities. Here are some good habits that you could pick up.

1) Learn something new

Use your gadget to learn a new skill. There are many apps out there that are interactive and free. Learning a new language is an interesting skill to acquire.

2) Download interesting Podcasts

It can be motivational and educational. There are many free podcasts online as well. It keeps your brain active.

3) Give yourself scheduled “technology breaks”

Try spending a day without being dependent on the gadgets. No smartphone(except to call if you have to), computers or TV. What would you do? Go for a walk. Head to the library. Have a conversation with a new friend on the train. Being away from these gadgets every now and then helps to clear your mind. You’d be amazed at how peaceful it is to be away from “fast-paced connected world”.\





There are times when we blame life for the unfortunate things that happens to us. Or blame people for being unreasonable. However, what we have to realise is that we have the power to change how we feel towards any negative situation.

We can train ourselves to be proactive towards any setbacks. Empower ourself to make decisions that would benefit us.

We can’t give in. We have to fight.

You think you deserve this pain, but you don’t




Most people underestimate the effect of walking. You don’t have to buy a $1200 treadmill just to walk. Neither do you have to compartmentalize walking in your day. If you have been too used to the privileges of modern day transport, start walking again.

The effects are significant. It’ll benefit you holistically in your physical as well as your mental health.




A brand new day

A brand new day

Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes, we brood over the past till it affects the present. We think our past defines who we are. That we are incapable of change.

But what we should realise is that every morning is a blessing. It is an opportunity to change, to improve, to start again.

And if that day doesn’t turn out as well, pick yourself up. Get ready for the next day. Keep on fighting.


Your words have power

Your words have power

Whether we realise it or not, our words have an impact to ourselves and to the people around us. Words can influence, discourage, entertain,anger and hurt.

Even when giving advice, the choice of words used greatly affects the person receiving it. Focusing on the positive and solutions instead of highlighting the person’s mistakes. This would make the advice more readily acceptable.

Give alternatives instead of telling the person what not to do. A simple positive reinforcement of his/her past efforts would go a long way in boosting their morale as well.


Key to happiness

Key to happiness

There are many proposed ways to be happy.

Exercise, being around people you love, meditation, to name a few.

However, if we could narrow the essence of happiness, it would be gratitude. It means being constantly aware of the gifts and the opportunities that has been presented to us. To remind ourselves of how fortunate we are, even during times when the future looks bleak.

This is not easy as it sounds. Being happy takes effort. Happiness does not kick in immediately as soon as you choose to feel grateful. It requires practice and persistence.

some practical advice to live gratefully

STOP: “We rush through life; we don’t stop, and we miss opportunities because we don’t stop,” he says. He tells us the story of returning home after spending time in a remote part of Africa, where there was no electricity, no water. At home, he was overwhelmed with gratitude every time he turned on a faucet or clicked on a light. Even after he re-assimilated into home life, he left stickers on the tap and switch to remind himself to be grateful for the resources.

LOOK: We must use all our senses to soak in the wonderful richness that life has given to us. “That is what life is about, to enjoy what is given to us,” he says. “When we open our hearts to opportunities, opportunities invite us to do something.”

GO: We should do whatever life offers to us in that present moment. Sometimes that might be difficult, but we should go with it and do our best to enjoy every moment.



Delayed Gratification

Delayed Gratification

In a world where most of our desires are met within a few clicks(the internet,technology), we are accustomed to believe that success could be achieved instantly. Or without much hardwork. Or there’s always a shortcut.

Training to delay gratification develops a willpower to not succumb to our impulses and desires. Putting that chocolate fudge brownie down when you’re trying to lose weight. Giving up games when exams are nearing.

Here are 5 tips that can help you train your willpower

1) Remember your goal

You need to remember your goal. We tend to look for an easy way out because we lose track of what we actually want. So you need to write it down. Daily if you need to. Write it on a post-it and paste it all around your room. See it everyday. This constant reminder would hinder you from ever losing track of your main goal.

2) Start a goals journal

Writing enables you to reflect on your feelings towards that day. If you’re feeling demotivated, you’d recognized that feeling through your written words. You’d know that you have to do something about it. It’d also helped you tracked how far you have come from.

3) Depend on trusted friends/relatives.

You can share your goal with some of your very close friends. They could help remind you of your goals everytime you feel that you’re going to lose track.

4) 5 seconds rule

Train yourself to count to 5 every time you feel an impulse for instant gratification. It works in a meditative way, clearing your mind before acting.

5) Recognize the shortcuts and remove them

Analyse the actions or behaviors that could hinder you from your goals. You’d have to get them out of your system. If it is something physical, remove it. You won’t have to be tempted by it any longer.

Willpower is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.

Time to get strong!