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Sometimes when you’re on this path to success or any personal goal, you’d hear many discouraging criticisms from your friends, relatives and even family members. One extreme way to deal with such situations is to ignore everything, like Tim in the photo (which does sound appealing and often works if you it drives you to prove them wrong). Another extreme way is to let their words affect in its entirety and de-motivate you completely.

A balanced and ideal solution would be selective listening or a form of moderated blindness. You’d have to take only the information which you can use for your own betterment, even if it is harsh and direct. And ignore the rest which are not constructive to achieving your goals.

“Yeah, whatever you try to build or create — be it a poem, or a new skill, or a new relationship — you will find yourself immediately surrounded by non-creators who trash it. Maybe not to your face, but they’ll do it. Your drunk friends do not want you to get sober. Your fat friends do not want you to start a fitness regimen. Your jobless friends do not want to see you embark on a career.

Just remember, they’re only expressing their own fear, since trashing other people’s work is another excuse to do nothing.”

It takes much emotional energy and practice to truly listen to people. But great ideas are often generated when the heart and mind are out of the comfort zone.

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