CHARACTERISTICS OF A MODERN ALPHA MALE
1) Be a leader of men
People should look to you as a leader. You lead by example. You set the tone for the night. When there’s any doubt about what the next move should be, you’re the one who decides. You take women by the hand. You’re a social hub. You’re the one people look to when they’re looking for a fun time. You’re assertive but take everyone’s feelings into account.
2) Be firm in your values
You have meditated and thought about your deepest inner values. You are unwavering on these. These can include things as basic as love of life, traveling, studying, religion, or not tolerating condescension or self-defeating behavior. These are the basic pieces that make up your personality and it is important to know what they are. The average, beta male has trouble describing his personal values to others. He looks to others to define who he is. This will not be you. YOU will define who you are. Nobody else.
3) Be self-validated
You do not need the validation of others to define your confidence. You can get “in state” from energy generated purely from within. You don’t look to others for approval because you KNOW you’re an all-star. You’re AWESOME and every fiber of your being knows it. You will not be knocked out of state in the field because nothing can harm your ego. You are awesomeness embodied. Settle for nothing less.
4) Be non-reaction seeking & non-reactive
How someone reacts to your behavior is not particularly important to you. You are self-validated and emanate awesomeness. You are positive, understanding and beneficent to others yet do not need this fact acknowledged. People react to YOU. You do not react to THEM. People seek your approval which you dole out as appropriate. You are outcomes-independent.
5) Have social proof and preselection
Everywhere you go, people want to be associated with you. You have many friends. Beautiful women are part of your life. You accept this as a god-given fact. You own every room you’re in. You’re Bill Clinton. You have an abundance mentality because your life is abundant.
6) Be a value giver (and not a value taker)
You do not NEED approval from others. Approval is something a high value individual doles out to others. Receiving approval is taking value. Seeking approval is being a value taker. YOU dole out the approval. YOU are approached by value takers. YOU are a value giver. Every person you encounter in your life is better off for having met you. Whether it’s just a wave hello to a stranger, a compliment to your butcher, or a massive party you help organize and invite high value people to, you’re enriching the lives of others. You are benevolent and compassionate. You look out for and protect the people in your life.
7) Be fun
Everywhere you go, you BRING THE PARTY. You ARE the party! You’re able to have fun everywhere you go. You can turn a boring bar into the place to be, just by stepping in the room. You’re those people in the club having more fun than everyone else. You’re playful, teasing, and spontaneous with the women in your life. People want to be with you and be blessed with the value emanating from your pores.
8) Don’t be creepy & make sure to dress/groom well
As a modern, alpha male, it’s important to be well groomed and dressed properly for your personality. People look up to you and it’s important to put effort into your appearance. Likewise, you will avoid creepy or stalkerish behavior. These are not congruent with an alpha male.
-Tofutofu from Reddit
Ultimately, it is about generating self-worth without the approval of others. The above points were catered for guys(only some are useful too), but some of them could apply to females as well. You have to make yourself happy. Seek to give value to lives of others and yourself instead of expecting others to give it to you.
You can’t depend on the world. It will disappoint you. You have to make the move.